I agree with Blondie about the college thing. I wanted to go as a JW teen and was not permitted, so I went back when I was 36. I wasn't the same as the 18yr old experience but work did pay for it. In the big picture, I felt it started to make up for some things I missed out on. There were plenty of people there that were in the same spot and not because they were former JW's. My advice is start making up for the things you missed out on NOW!
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So what sacrifices did you make for da troof? Any regrets?
by hamsterbait ina few years ago at the ca, there were experiences about what people had given up to serve jehovah.. (sidebar - in every instance where i personally knew those on the platform, the experiences were lies or at best half truths embroidered with lies.).
anyway - the interviewer was constantly saying " as a <insert profession> you could have earned <insert salary>".
what annoyed me was that somebody who gave up a full time job cleaning toilets for jehovah, and took a part time job cleaning toilets was not even invited to participate.. hb.
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So what sacrifices did you make for da troof? Any regrets?
by hamsterbait ina few years ago at the ca, there were experiences about what people had given up to serve jehovah.. (sidebar - in every instance where i personally knew those on the platform, the experiences were lies or at best half truths embroidered with lies.).
anyway - the interviewer was constantly saying " as a <insert profession> you could have earned <insert salary>".
what annoyed me was that somebody who gave up a full time job cleaning toilets for jehovah, and took a part time job cleaning toilets was not even invited to participate.. hb.
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I did not speak to my DF'ed father for 30 years (regrets that words cannot express).
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Mom puts heat on my daughter
by purplesofa inso my mom came down for a visit a few weekends ago, since i knew nothing about it till she got in town, i opted out on seeing her her.. she did not leave a very good lasting impression on my daughter and my grand daughter would not have anything to do with her (babies have such great intuition).
my mom has not been preaching much to my daughter, but left her quite a library when she left town.. .
yesterday she calls my daughter and grills her about why i don't go to meetings anymore, she is upset that i influenced her to get in the truth(which is not really true) and then give her a book to read (coc) saying bad things about the organization.. my daughter told my mom there were allot of coverups in the congo and older men doing inappropriate things with younger girls(i have not told many things on this board about my congo) my mom said that i did not love jehovah enough to let that bother me enough to keep me from going to the meetings.
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Sounds like the exact same conversations I've had with my mom. Except when I say anything about the corrupt way the congregation operates, she says "Oh they are all that way, they are not perfect". We should get them together so they can get their story straight. I think our kids have a better nose for BS than we ever did, sounds like your daughter can hold her own.
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Rehab has been very interesting, but ended nightmarishly....
by oompa inhi guys...oompa here.
was i in rehab for alcohol addiction or jwd addiction!?!?
!......no computers or cellphones allowed so i have been awol awhile..... ya, i finally made my self sick enough on booze to realize i was really sick and tired of being sick and tired....so checked myself into rehab without any planning at all and while wife was out of town on a family retreat...it was a a very desperate moment in my life, and i was extremely physically and emotionally sick....i was so desperate i took zero time to reseach where to go, but called an old school friend who said rehab had saved his life and he made the calls and actually took me and helped me check in to the place he went to 5 years ago.
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Congratulations and welcome back. NMKA
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I had a dream last night that I died...
by cognac ini was trying to catch a football and somehow landed on my car and crashed in the front window.
there was a little boy in the back seat that was about 8 years old.
i was now a ghost.
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Cognac, I looked this up on a dream site, which I frequently do with my own dreams. The little boy may picture a longing for the past or a childhood desire that has been unfulfilled. Your own death, interestingly enough, may picture a spiritual awakening or advancement. Snow sometimes means thoughts that you wish you could express, literally frozen or frigidity. I don't know how to embed a site, but I used the first site that came up when I googled dreams. It's kind of fun isn't it? NMKA
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To all the newbies: How I've have adapted to life outside the Org
by tooktheredpill ini havent been active in the forum for some time, but i keep reading your comments every few weeks.
ive noticed that there are many new members.
welcome to jwd!!!
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Took the pill, thank you for all of your insights, my husband and I can pretty much ditto what you said. Our quality of life has improved dramatically. Like you said, just with the simple things like leisurely cooking breakfast on the weekend, watching the kids play a sport and working hard on your career have just been invaluable to us. We too just disappeared and we didn't get divorced, kids aren't on drugs or anything out of the ordinary. Jw's just can't figure us out and I like it that way! I hope you continue to enjoy the good life. NMKA
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Another Newbie
by readyornot inhi jwners.
ive been a lurker for awhile, and have learned so much from your experiences, wisdom and humor.
i still marvel at the reach of sadness suffered by so many on this forum.
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Welcome, what a sad story. I am glad it had a happy ending for you. I think everyone is a little messed up from being raised nutsie cuckoo, but it will be ok, especially now that you can vent. NMKA
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My G'Daughter Is a Latch-key Kid
by snowbird inshe's eleven, and rides the bus to and from school.. i used to have a van pick her up and drop her off, but the expense was too much.. she walks to and from the bus stop with the kids next door.
they are very good to her - they wait until she gets inside our house before they go into theirs.
when our cat escapes, they help round her up.. today, she forgot her key, and their mama called me and let me know she'll be staying at her house until i get off work.. mama will be giving her something to eat, right along with her kids.
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That's so nice, they will probably be friends forever. We often have a few extra kids at our house and the pleasure is all mine.
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For Those Lurking, Thinkiing of Leaving, Just Leaving, How Do You....
by AllTimeJeff in... start over with friends?.
i would like to suggest that we leave finding another church out of this, not because it isn't a good idea for our theistically minded friends.
for those that choose to do so, it seems like they do alright, and that seems the easiest suggestion to make.. so if thats for you, consider me taking care of that as suggestion #1.. but what if you need a break from the whole church scene?
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It does become an issue, because even though I am not DF'ed, I only have a few friends "in" that will still talk to us, even less family and it is very strained. I worried about my kids the most (not that they had any social life as a JW) so we got them involved in sports, music and etc. This was good for us too, we made some new friends that way. The last few years (before we left)I was conscious about making friends at work and doing things with them outside of work, so I would have a back up system. They have been so valuable in my departure. I started having the neighbors over for drinks, they in turn had us over for our first Thanksgiving. I also kept in touch with a few people from college (graduated in 2005). I have tried to reconnect with family members that are already out, they were very nice, but they already have their own families and are a little biter themselves over past Jw injustice, so not a whole lot of luck there. Shopaholic is right, be a good friend, which is so much easier now without the JW crap colored glasses I used to have on. Instead of being afraid of "worldly' people I try to show an interest in everyone I come across, "can I see a picture of your new grandchild?""How long have you been in this business?" "Where did you go to school?" Most people love to talk about themselves and a good way to at least have some new acquaintance that can lead to friendship. NMKA
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I made it!!!
by purplesofa into fifty!!.
never dreamed life would be as it is now, .
there are times i did not think i would make it.
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Happy Birthday!!